If you’re dipping a toe into BDSM toys this is a lovely place to start – not least because if you’re not sure you want to get into intense power play yet it can be as sensual as it is controlling. It can also start very simple – a silk tie or butt plugs is easily grabbed when coming home from work or just before bed.
While a red room of pain is fine in fantasy, the fact is if most of us had a spare room in our house we could use for whatever we wanted we’d think of a dozen things to use it for before we thought to install the BDSM toys.
If Sex and the City can be credited with bringing the Rampant Rabbit into women’s consciousness and subsequently their bedside drawers, then BDSM toys has done epic things for a host of other toys. Everything from those cable ties through to blindfolds, butt plugs and jiggle balls.
You don’t have to spend a fortune on BDSM toys to spice up your love life – and gone are the days of sex shops being the natural home of men in polyester coats you’d actively cross the road to avoid. and if even the thought of that makes you blush there’s plenty of places you can buy online who’ll deliver to your door.
Experiment with what you fancy – and take the opportunity to discuss with your partner anything they fancy trying too, it needn’t be a po-faced conversation and communicating about what’ll happen when BDSM toys you’ve bought arrived isn’t just good practice, but will help build anticipation for when it does.
Just remember there’s plenty of potential in things around the house if you use your imagination – from wooden spoons and butt plugs to cling film too. Just remember to start use BDSM toys slowly and be safe.